Hi all,
As you know I am a Crone, (that is a woman over 50). Now the old idea of the Crone is of an wizened old lady who doesn't have much to contribute. Well what I have found since reaching 50 is that I have a lots more personal power and I am more self-assured than ever. The problem I have found is that many men my age find me incredibly threatening. I would add that this is especially so for men with very "traditional" values who didn't embrace the lessons of the Sixties, (you know, Peace and Love).
I was puzzled as to how these men had managed to live in the past so long while the rest of the world moved on. A male friend answered this by telling me that these men had led lives in traditional enclaves, (such as mainly masculine jobs) whilst living within very traditional family structures. I have spent most of my life with creative and bohemian types of people so to encounter these types of men was new to me. Especially at post 50 years.
However, what really threw me was the amount of aggression I encountered from them when they met me. I might add here that I am a comparatively wealthy self-made business woman who is financially independent and successful. I also look a lot younger than my age. And what also occurs to me at this point is that a lot of people my age, especially traditional men, have not reached the goals they set out to reach that they would use to define themselves as "successful". This being the case I think they find me very threatening and that the level of aggression they display towards me is directly proportionate to the degree that they feel threatened by me. That being the case, although I find encountering such men unpleasant I can see their aggression for what is really is: a display of weakness.
This being the case I feel a certain degree of compassion, but that is also tempered by my feeling that these men have really no-one but themselves to blame for their dilemma. If they rely on antiquated models of masculinity to define their success as men then they are responsible for holding that belief system And if by their own standard they have failed to live up to that "success" then that is also their responsibility because they are responsible for their own lives. And when they come in contact with a concrete mirror like me that reflects both those "defects", (by their definition), back to themselves then they react with fierce aggression.
Now I understand that while I find such encounters unpleasant I am serving never the less as a servant for the Goddess since it is Her Values that I am presenting to such men. It is also Her Values that the bohemian and non-patriarchal men that populate my life also embrace. Hence I am not in conflict with them.
I am probably most threatening to these "traditional" men since the power I represent itself runs counter to their concept of power. What I have is power over me and I do not seek power over others. And they know in the deepest recesses of their souls that for all their aggression they cannot touch me. And truly they can't.
I wish all non-patriarchal men out there Love and Peace. I also wish this to all patriarchal men with an addition; move on - the world has and if you don't you will get left behind.
Until next time,
As always,
Blessed be
KK
