* Hi all,
Yawn!. No I'm not tired just tired of the old debate that seems to have resurfaced on the web recently. The "Can a woman be a feminist and a slut at the same time?" debate. Yawn! zzzz.... In my opinion this is a non - debate.
Could you imagine the corollary question for men? "Can a man be in favour of men's rights and a stud at the same time?" Most people would find the question laughable. And I find the same debate about women laughable.
After all what is a slut to begin with? Some-one, (usually a woman), who's sexual practises are not approved of by the person using the word. What on earth is how much sex a woman has had got to do with feminism as long as she is doing it willingly?
It's a no brainer. Patriarchy's basic division in regard to women is the madonna/whore split. Once they, (some men), have managed to divide woman against each other then they can rule. You know like the British did in the past - divide and rule. (I'm British by the way so I can say that).
I am concerned as a woman/feminist with equal pay and being safe from rape etc. I am not concerned with how some-one may, or may not, label me according to my sexual behaviour. It's in none of their business. And neither is their opinion any of my business.
I don't want to change their opinion or debate with them because merely by using a word such as slut they have, in my opinion, labelled themselves as a brain dead moron. Their opinion to me causes me the disturbance of a knat landing on a rhinoceros's skin.
So you may ask if the label slut does not disturb me why I am talking about it on this blog. Well what disturbs me is how so many other women seem to give credence to this labelling by being defensive if it is applied to them.
Yawn!. No I'm not tired just tired of the old debate that seems to have resurfaced on the web recently. The "Can a woman be a feminist and a slut at the same time?" debate. Yawn! zzzz.... In my opinion this is a non - debate.
Could you imagine the corollary question for men? "Can a man be in favour of men's rights and a stud at the same time?" Most people would find the question laughable. And I find the same debate about women laughable.
After all what is a slut to begin with? Some-one, (usually a woman), who's sexual practises are not approved of by the person using the word. What on earth is how much sex a woman has had got to do with feminism as long as she is doing it willingly?
It's a no brainer. Patriarchy's basic division in regard to women is the madonna/whore split. Once they, (some men), have managed to divide woman against each other then they can rule. You know like the British did in the past - divide and rule. (I'm British by the way so I can say that).
I am concerned as a woman/feminist with equal pay and being safe from rape etc. I am not concerned with how some-one may, or may not, label me according to my sexual behaviour. It's in none of their business. And neither is their opinion any of my business.
I don't want to change their opinion or debate with them because merely by using a word such as slut they have, in my opinion, labelled themselves as a brain dead moron. Their opinion to me causes me the disturbance of a knat landing on a rhinoceros's skin.
So you may ask if the label slut does not disturb me why I am talking about it on this blog. Well what disturbs me is how so many other women seem to give credence to this labelling by being defensive if it is applied to them.
Get this: if a man calls a woman a slut and is applying it in a sexist way only to woman - it doesn't matter. He a moron. Why would you care about the opinion of a moron?
A real man, who can actually think, will apply his sexual morality equally to both sexes. So if he thinks promiscuous sex is wrong he will think it is wrong for men as well as women. I have no problem with that - everyone is entitled to have their own opinions on morality concerning sex. But at least let's make it equal. Not along the double standard that Patriarchy has dished out for so long!
I'm with Rebecca West on this: She said people called her a feminist whenever she engaged in behaviour that differentiated her from a doormat.
If someone calls you a slut because you engage in sexual behaviour that they do not approve of, don't defend yourself. Consider it a compliment. It means you have a brain and can determine your own sexuality.
Congratulations! You are a grown-up!
Until next time,
Blessed be,
KK
* Picture of Ishtar.Goddess of Love
